I have four children. They always get along and never fight. This is a wonderful testimony to my skill and expertise as a parent.
Okay, not really. In fact, not even close. I have a certain child who delights in creating a ruckus. He gets a strange kind of delight from tormenting ONE of his sisters. She whines and tattles before she has even told him to stop and go away. Both have issues that need fixing. They are feeding off each other and driving me nuts. With the other sister it doesn’t seem to be a problem. She has gained a certain amount of respect from him due to screaming violently if he bothers her in the slightest. They get along well now. 😉
I decided that something needed to be done about their bickering. This also was about the time I was trying to get my house birthday party clean. The proverbial light bulb lit up over my head. If they had time to argue and fight, they needed more to do. This is when I made the JAR OF CONGENIALITY.
The jar is full of small jobs under 5 minutes each. When one child starts a fight, he gets a job. If the other responds wrong, i.e., crying, whining, tattling, she gets a job. When I explained how it worked the first day, they looked intrigued. They immediately started aggravating each other to get jobs- not quite what I was expecting, but I could work with this! I explained that they could just pick a job from the jar and not aggravate each other. They spent the next two hours picking jobs! NICE. After a couple days the novelty wore off, and now it seems to be a deterrent to the irritating behavior I had been dealing with. I don’t expect them to totally stop arguing. They are still children after and learning how to deal with people in life. I just want them to learn to treat others with respect and learn how to deal with people who treat you wrong in an appropriate manner. It seems we have a good starting place now!